The Equality Issue....

 Hello!


I wanted to write today, but did not have the inspiration I was searching for.  Luckily I had a fun morning conversation with my friend Eileen.

We were chatting about our kids and where they're at in life.  Eileen has three grown children as well, and we were talking about how even though they are all grown up, we still think about how to make sure that each one gets treated equally.  We came to the conclusion that equal is really not possible, but equitable is!

From the time you have more than one child, at least I did, you think about how to make sure everyone's needs are met and met in a way that demonstrates equality for all.  Unlike having a favorite child, I think you need to have a favorite part, quality, personality trait, in each and every child you have.  I would guess there is already plenty in Literature about how someone got "the shaft" because they were not treated well or equitably by their parents.  Oh yeah!  There already is at least one famous story out there... Cinderella!

My three adult children are all different, and to that end, what each of them needs, desires and aspires to is quite different.  I think the goal of an effective, dare I even say good parent, is to figure out how to play to those parts.  See what each child needs, don't concentrate on equal, concentrate on meeting needs.  And honestly, even though we may want to give our children all that they want, that is probably not the best idea for their long term development.  I think the Rolling Stones say it best in the line "You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes well you might find you get what you need."

How that looks is different for everyone.  It may mean you help your adult kids with a home purchase, or your new teacher with a car, or your son with his next quest to be a Steady-Cam operator.  In reality, it has nothing to do with money at all.  Actually, it is probably best demonstrated by my friend Eileen's story about Easter with her three daughters years ago.  She made sure that each child's basket had equal amounts of candy and fluff and fun.  I am going to go out on a limb here though, and bet that in each of those baskets the bunnies were different.... I  bet there was a yellow one, a purple one and a pink one... depending on what each child's favorite color was... just sayin'.

So, here's to embracing our kids, celebrating their uniqueness and striving always to help them become who they truly are.

 

                                                 I love this picture.....

 Until next time,

Pam

Remember

O.K.

Remember to celebrate each day and take good care of the ones you love!!!!!!

That is it......


Until next time,

Pam

A Sense of Humour

Hello....


One of my favorite books that I used to read when I was teaching preschool was "My Mom Hates Me In January".   I used to love to read this to the kids that were 3 and 4 and see what they thought.  If, by chance they were aware that when you live in a cold and snowy winter climate, that sometimes their parents weren't
quite as excited about those continuing snowy and cold days...

Maybe the answer is ....It depends.

So, even though today is actually March 13th and it truly is still cold and though not snowing, there is an ample amount of snow on the ground...and I am listening to Al Roker predict another big snow event on it's way to the East Coast....have fun today!

Go out... play in the snow with your kids, do something fun, enjoy the whole kid thing, act like a big one yourself today!

What a great example that is!  You may even laugh a lot or be surprised.

Who knows, you could be surprised like my daughter Megan was. She was given  Hot Chocolate with Whisky from her Cleveland neighbor, after Megan chose to play in the snow with her snowblower and cleared off her neighbor's driveway. That will make you smile!

Have fun today....Be a Big Kid!

Until next time,

Pam

Taking a Risk.....

Hello All!


Last time I wrote I talked about different mindsets and shared the book I have been reading.
I have read more of it.  "mindset" is the title.

I think part of being a good parent, well maybe effective parent or mindful parent may be a better way to define this behavior, is to try and be a good example of all the things we tell our kids to do.  Part of the continuing process of growing in life, for our kids, for us, for families, is to learn how to take risks that are purposeful and that demonstrate growth.  By putting ourselves out there and taking mindful risks, we demonstrate that "our talk and our walk" match and are consistent.

So, to that end, I have taken a new risk.  We will see how it plays out.

One of the goals I have shared with my family is to write a Children's Book.  I have been thinking about it and working on ideas for a couple of years, and now have completed a manuscript.    10 days ago I decided to take a risk and signed on with a self publisher.  

Do I hope the project is wildly successful?  Yes, I do.  Is that the main goal?  Nope, the purpose is to "just do it".

Ok... here's to risking it!


Until next time,

Pam