A running commentary on how to NOT mess up your children too much!
Wednesday, April 24, 2013
Periodically crazy
Hello All!
I do not know about any of you, but periodically I am sure that I am certifiable!
As my kids were growing up, I wanted to teach them by being a good example. I subscribe to the thought that my kids should see me as someone they could emulate. My Dad use to say "Do as I say, not as I do." I think that can work out o.k. for the most part, yet I am really striving to be the "Do as I Do" person.
Last time I was in New York visiting out oldest daughter and my new grandson and her husband, I was really thinking about trying to be laid back and follow their lead, and hope that I was cool...I think I did that. One night I had the chance to just be with my daughter, and the lovely Max, who soon went to bed. She asked me what I would change about myself.... and AH HA...there you have it. I had to reveal what my "crazy" is, and of course she already knew it. I am neurotic about health issues. I always think the worst, and so have a hard time not imagining the absolute worst...( of course last year I got whacked a bit along those lines, but it all got resolved) and I told her, I wish that I could change how I think, and that I am constantly working on that!! Trying to stop the crazy voice in my own head!
You know, each and every one of us is flawed. Even me... :)
So, if you take anything away from these posts, I would hope that you appreciate that by trying hard and being real and working at being a good parent, your adult daughter (adult children) will love you always and respect what is important. She will know you and appreciate the fact that even when she outs you by naming the crazy part of you....she knows you have tried hard and will continue to, to be the parent that is attempting to be wise, helpful, real and evolving throughout each and every part of life!
We parents don't have to be perfect. We just have to try!
I guess THAT is a good lesson in itself!
Until next time,
Pam
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